Alcoholism often victimizes more than just the abuser. Family members of alcoholics are sometimes subjected to unnecessary mental and physical abuse. Many don't realize that their loved one has a problem with drinking, and end up perpetuating the problem by covering up the alcoholic's behavior. As a result, they become victims of not only the alcoholic's behavior, but of their own feelings of embarrassment, guilt, and failure. Spouses of alcoholics often suffer anxiety, insomnia, tension and depression. They sometimes feel a strong sense of anger and have a desire for vengeance, which they may take out on their children or colleagues at work. However, it's important for family members of alcoholics to remember that they aren't responsible for the behavior. In addition, family members should keep in mind that alcoholic behavior is abusive whether or not it leads to physical violence. Spouses and children of alcoholics have the right to demand that and their loved one seek treatment. Although recovery from alcoholism is a gradual process, family members can promote recovery by setting boundaries, and acknowledging unacceptable behaviors. Support groups such as Al-Anon can teach family members about their rights, and help them to organize an effective approach for dealing with the disease. For more information, consult a healthcare provider in your area.