ONLY ON 4: Shocking note left by dying father's hospital bedside

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Updated: 5/17/2014 10:08 am
RENO, Nev. (KRNV & - It’s hard to imagine: a father spending his final moments in intensive care, and his son rushing to his bed side, only to find a shocking and insensitive note left behind possibly by a hospital caretaker.

70-year-old Charles Bakondi suffered a heart attack and was in the later stages of cancer when he was transferred to the intensive care unit at St. Mary’s Regional Medical Center overnight. For a family grieving their loss, this note only intensified their suffering.

News 4 interviewed his son, Darren Bakondi, Tuesday morning, before his father passed away later that afternoon.

The note contains just seven words, “He looks like he died last week!,” reads Darren Bakondi. “ It was immediate outrage. It was difficult to deal with. "

Bakondi could not believe what he read on a note he found on his father’s bedside tray when he rushed to his father’s I.C.U. room as he was fighting for his life.

"He had trouble breathing. He had trouble swallowing. He's very frail. He only weighs 79-80 pounds," said Bakondi.

The insensitive note was written on the back of an I.V bag label. Darren suspects it was a person cracking a joke and was never meant to be seen, but it was and the damage was done.

"I mean, complete and utter disregard for my father,” he said. “With the life he's led, he deserves dignity and especially in the last days of his life, which will be spent here at the facility. I'm sure. He deserves more than that with everything he's done in life."

Hospital representatives apologized to the family, and Saint Mary's C.E.O., Helen Lidholm, responded to News 4, saying:

“Our team began investigating this situation yesterday, and will continue our investigation further and work with all those involved to ensure a resolution is met including any additional apologies to the patient and family.”

Darren said he believes the apologies are genuine, and said hospital staff gave his father excellent care. He just wants the offender to be held accountable.

"I think that's the only way this hospital can truly show that they are serious about the problem," he said.

Until then, the Bakondis are mourning. Before his father passed, Darren told News 4 he was focused on making sure the man who raised him leaves this world, a loved and respected man.

“I have no doubt that he'll finish his days here happy,” said Bakondi. “Again, that one moment is probably going to taint any of my thoughts or respect for this facility ever again. I just hope it never happens again to another family.

News 4 inquired what kind of repercussions the note-writer would face if discovered. Hospital representatives say all parts of the investigation will remain confidential due to privacy laws.

Darren said he hoped by giving his father's story attention, it would l move the hospital to correct this offense swiftly and justly.

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RJP5322 - 5/20/2014 3:39 AM
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They need to name this idiot who wrote this on the IV tag, This is the worse joke ever as a employee in the hospital doing this to a patient and his family.

SuperNinja - 5/19/2014 11:14 AM
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I agree with @Kramer--when you work in a field that constantly deals with death and grieving families (not only the health care industry), people often use humor to deal with it. People on the outside think this humor as insensitive, morbid, and/or disgusting, but that's how a lot of people cope with the constant stream of depressing emotions. This person just should have never wrote it and he/she should be reprimanded for this carelessness that caused the family more grief.

NVAdvocate - 5/18/2014 9:33 PM
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Don't ever leave a loved one alone in a hospital. They are short staffed as a way of maximizing profit. Its all about profit. Stay with loved ones. Read the book HOW TO GET OUT OF THE HOSPITAL ALIVE.

Kramer - 5/18/2014 3:48 PM
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or it could just be "gallows humor", a way of coping

SkiBum - 5/18/2014 10:18 AM
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Bamber, your defense and spin on the context of that note is patently absurd. You might want to change fields, because you seem burned out in the industry.

Speed - 5/17/2014 2:29 PM
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“He looks like he died last week!,” C'mon,Bamber-You know as well as I do there's no other way to interpret this comment. If indeed the nurse felt this concern,the thing to do would have been to talk to someone who could look into the person's care and see that they were being properly treated. Of Course,there is a possibility of administrative repercussions for calling attention to this problem,but given the choice,I couldn't sleep if I turned a blind eye to something like this. If I was disciplined for my action,so be it.

Bamber - 5/17/2014 1:12 PM
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I don't work at this hospital, but I am in healthcare and feel the need to set something straight here. This actually looks to me like a note a nurse may have written to address concern for the patient with the doctor and simply taken out of context. What if that was just how it was written at the time, not meant as a cruel jab, but a concern? Yet everybody is so quick to become offended and offensive. Now I’m not saying that the hospital is always in the right either, just that there may be another side to this story that will likely never be told. The story of a nurse that was concerned about how bad the patient looked, wrote down a note as a reminder to address it with the doctor, accidently left it in the room because they were called to another room and were so busy that they forgot about it. Now besides being overworked, underpaid, and unappreciated, they are going to be crucified by the hospital administration for making them look bad.

oldguyincc - 5/17/2014 10:51 AM
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Saint Mary's hospital, where I was born, and where my aunt and grandfather passed away, and which Sister Seraphine ran with an iron hand, regardless of hospital administrators, vanished when it was sold to the present for-profit corporation.

buacl - 5/16/2014 11:53 PM
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What kind of nasty piece of garbage would do such a thing? What a wicked and evil thing to do. Was that an exclamation mark at the end? My heart goes out to this family for their loss and the indignation they must feel. I hope this person is caught and that their name is made public so that the people around them know what a horrible person they are. Outrageous and insensitive. Completely Disgusting.

Zipnbya66 - 5/16/2014 6:20 PM
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Absolutely, positively disgusting! My heart goes out to this man's family. I hope the person responsible is found and fired.

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